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Describe the new page here. Participants: Susan Partnow, Carolyn Shaffer, Henri Lipmanowicz, Lyn Bazzell, Joseph McCormich?, Geruase Bushe, Elaine Hansen, Collette Thompson, Heather Tischbein, Renata Kowalczyk , Peggy Holman, Natasha Sacouman, Diana Smith, Kaya Jacolev. (Apologies for spelling) |
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Participants: SusanPartnow, CarolynShaffer, HenriLipmanowicz, LynBazzell, JosephMcCormick?, GervaseBush, ElaineHansen?, ColletteThompson?, HeatherTischbein, RenataKowalczyk?, PeggyHolman, NatashaSacouman?, DianaSmith, KayaJacolev, TomAtlee?. |
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• Everyone has a different experience, different wants in an organization. How do you get things done? Is there a new way of organizing without an authority system? • How do we take responsibility? How are we co-creators in what we see? We see the rage? How does it tap into our own rage? • How do we meet the grief? How can we do this quickly? There is a moment of self-indulgence, we have privilege. • We open conversation the we close it down when it gets uncomfortable • We close the conversation …. From the space of authority. How do I get myself out of the way? Yet be responsible for the outcome? • Example retreat 2.5 days of working on relations with each other, .5 day of efficient work. • “Slow down to the speed of wisdom”. The power of soak time. • Paradox of the world is burning and needing to move slowly. • What do we have to do: 1. give opportunities to everyone to do what they need to do? 2. How each of us needs to develop in our group work? • Each emotion/feeling/view is valid. • What to do when you think someone goes off topic? Who gets to decide? • Holding the space for that to happen. In silence. • What enabled (the woman) to speak up? She said love. I did not get that. She was in a space of loving witness. She found that it was her place to speak • It looks messy, that is okay. • Being centered, discernment is essential. Whether it is wrong or right is peripheral. • There was a power struggle we should talk about it. • I felt there was a violation of an agreement, coupled with a responsibility to serve the group • We need to talk about hierarchies • Patterns of behavior that need to die • We don’t want to admit that it is there. • Healthy side of hierarchy. Making decisions efficiently, this is healthy for people. • Making agreement explicit • You cannot have a functioning group without a common purpose. • You are valuable. We don’t have power over anyone. • To dishonor hierarchy and not recognize rank and hierarchy is wrong. To dishonor the father is not the way to move forward. • Global interconnected world. How to bring in more feminine energy. • How much we have all suffered by our wanting to rush forward. This is what we got, let us honor it. Let us honor what is good about hierarchy. • What was happening for me? I like father. I have bought into the “good daddy” and not take responsibility for my own power. I am comforted by the “good daddy.” I was uncomfortable by the whispering. • Some were totally oblivious to what happened • And some were only witnessing. • I am a tasker and not a processor. I was the eldest daughter, I could argue with my father. Argument and debate does not have to be personal. I can be in the corporate world. Honor the sacrifices; honor the losses that mothers and daughters have felt. Tap into both my feminine and masculine side. • Whose business is it? Is this my business? It is not easy to tell. • The lesson I get, is that I have to take it in. Physiology will tell you if it is about me or not. • Groups are dysfunctional • It is a point of view. You could say all groups are functional. • Imagine if dysfunctions did not come up … where would we be? • This is not about “me”. There is a whole universe. Celebrate that I do not know. • What would I do if I were the host? • Energy in the room supported the women. (Men) felt rejected, abandonment. Maybe (they/he) are trying to unlearn leadership, authority. • I felt we were disrespected and abandoned. • Intellectually I would not have done it. It would have totally emasculated him to do what I asked. I felt like I would have betrayed my sisters, I needed to follow my two feet; I needed to breath. (She) was seething, pissed. I felt joined. How do I compassionately deal with this situation? • Solomon Asch’s groupthink experiment. Angst about speaking their truth. The people that did speak their truth said the right answers. • “Law of Two Feet” is against the social norm. Evolving the system forward. • “The law of two feet” seen as walking out, debrief what we learned from it. • What I learned, what can I learn? • When we (people) leave without knowing why, we lose the opportunity to learn. |
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* Everyone has a different experience, different wants in an organization. How do you get things done? Is there a new way of organizing without an authority system? * How do we take responsibility? How are we co-creators in what we see? We see the rage? How does it tap into our own rage? * How do we meet the grief? How can we do this quickly? There is a moment of self-indulgence, we have privilege. * We open conversation the we close it down when it gets uncomfortable * We close the conversation …. From the space of authority. How do I get myself out of the way? Yet be responsible for the outcome? * Example retreat 2.5 days of working on relations with each other, .5 day of efficient work. * “Slow down to the speed of wisdom”. The power of soak time. * Paradox of the world is burning and needing to move slowly. * What do we have to do: 1. give opportunities to everyone to do what they need to do? 2. How each of us needs to develop in our group work? * Each emotion/feeling/view is valid. * What to do when you think someone goes off topic? Who gets to decide? * Holding the space for that to happen. In silence. * What enabled (the woman) to speak up? She said love. I did not get that. She was in a space of loving witness. She found that it was her place to speak * It looks messy, that is okay. * Being centered, discernment is essential. Whether it is wrong or right is peripheral. * There was a power struggle we should talk about it. * I felt there was a violation of an agreement, coupled with a responsibility to serve the group * We need to talk about hierarchies * Patterns of behavior that need to die * We don’t want to admit that it is there. * Healthy side of hierarchy. Making decisions efficiently, this is healthy for people. * Making agreement explicit * You cannot have a functioning group without a common purpose. * You are valuable. We don’t have power over anyone. * To dishonor hierarchy and not recognize rank and hierarchy is wrong. To dishonor the father is not the way to move forward. * Global interconnected world. How to bring in more feminine energy. * How much we have all suffered by our wanting to rush forward. This is what we got, let us honor it. Let us honor what is good about hierarchy. * What was happening for me? I like father. I have bought into the “good daddy” and not take responsibility for my own power. I am comforted by the “good daddy.” I was uncomfortable by the whispering. * Some were totally oblivious to what happened * And some were only witnessing. * I am a tasker and not a processor. I was the eldest daughter, I could argue with my father. Argument and debate does not have to be personal. I can be in the corporate world. Honor the sacrifices; honor the losses that mothers and daughters have felt. Tap into both my feminine and masculine side. * Whose business is it? Is this my business? It is not easy to tell. * The lesson I get, is that I have to take it in. Physiology will tell you if it is about me or not. * Groups are dysfunctional * It is a point of view. You could say all groups are functional. * Imagine if dysfunctions did not come up … where would we be? * This is not about “me”. There is a whole universe. Celebrate that I do not know. * What would I do if I were the host? * Energy in the room supported the women. (Men) felt rejected, abandonment. Maybe (they/he) are trying to unlearn leadership, authority. * I felt we were disrespected and abandoned. * Intellectually I would not have done it. It would have totally emasculated him to do what I asked. I felt like I would have betrayed my sisters, I needed to follow my two feet; I needed to breath. (She) was seething, pissed. I felt joined. How do I compassionately deal with this situation? * Solomon Asch’s groupthink experiment. Angst about speaking their truth. The people that did speak their truth said the right answers. * “Law of Two Feet” is against the social norm. Evolving the system forward. * “The law of two feet” seen as walking out, debrief what we learned from it. * What I learned, what can I learn? * When we (people) leave without knowing why, we lose the opportunity to learn. |